“Your network equals your net worth.” A long while ago a very successful businessman said these word to me and at the time, being in my teens I didn’t fully understand the gravity of what it meant.

Later I would read “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – (Jim Rohn) this got me thinking about how true it was.

I did some reflection and shocking enough it was true I pretty much had the same life, job and material goods as the five people I spent the most time with. Now this is not necessarily a bad thing and of course I’m not suggesting you go out and dump your best friends. You might have a great life and be the most content person around that’s surrounded by positive, supportive, friends that push you to achieve and if that’s so then you are extremely lucky.

But if you like me were surrounded by negative people who were dragging you down, hearing the simple words of “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” and reflecting on your situation may give you enough perspective to change your circumstance as you’re the only one who can make that change. Now don’t get me wrong I still speak to my friends and we socialise all the time but I just choose to network and push myself to meet new interesting people who are positive and help make me a better me.
Don’t let your current situation define you. If you want a change you have to change first.

*First Published in The Thetford and Brandon Times